I’ve been asked so many times, especially during the many conversations that transpired as a result of connections made online through dating apps and websites, “Why are you single?”
I’d like to take the time now to thoroughly answer that question, because I think it’s a little unfair to ask someone that on-the-spot.
From my perspective, I’ve been ready for marriage, children, and a long-term relationship with the right person for a very long time. So, I cannot answer for other people.
I’ve seen and know of many marriages that are made up of two broke people, and I don’t mean financially broke. I mean psychologically, spiritually, and emotionally broke. This means instead of two separate but complete individuals coming together to form a power couple, it’s a man and woman who can’t survive on their own.
He can’t handle life alone, and she can’t handle life alone, so they get married and a co-dependent toxic relationship is borne. It’s a love-hate, manipulative relationship where the individuals don’t get along, but can’t survive without one another.
Together, they go further down the rabbit by having children, because for some reason, they think having children will bring them closer and fix their marriage. That never works, and what ends up happening is the children grow up in home where they’re being used by both parents.
I feel like I’m awake, complete, almost enlightened, and whole by myself. I might not be financially whole, but spiritually, emotionally, and psychologically, I’m complete.
If you’re complete as an individual, then let’s talk.
Nooz Buffet 