If you’re like me, then your mind wanders. Topic after topic. If you’re worried about this and fell like you’re loosing control, then listen to what I’m about to say.
My mind, I don’t know why, wanders, but I’m starting to think it has something to do with “the task of the moment,” but the advice I can give you is “don’t pay attention.” All types of thoughts of thoughts and temptations pass though, but remember, it’s all in your head. We shouldn’t live in our heads.
It’s not a bad thing if you have a wondering mind, but remember, we live in our physical reality. While our mind drifts from the here and now, our bodies don’t. Do not let random thoughts and temptations interfere with what you’re doing, or what you say to someone if they’re completely unrelated or something you normally wouldn’t or shouldn’t do.
If you, for example, just sat down to read a book, read that book. If the thought crosses your mind to check your email, send a text message, or do something else, ignore it until you’re done reading. Focus on what you’re doing, and see it thorough completion.
In his/her possession, the average person has a cell phone, tablet, laptop, computer, books, and magazines. Younger people have all that stuff including video games, so the urge to bounce from one thing to the next is great. So great in fact, it takes a mindful decision, and some effort to concentrate on one thing at a time.
When speaking and interacting with people, remember, that person doesn’t know what you’re thinking. They do however, hear what you say. They can see you, they can see how you react, how you stand, and what you do with your hands. Your body language is visible.
Someone approaches you for the first time. They want to speak with you because they want to get to know more about you, but during that conversation, the thought crosses your mind to say “fuck you,” and run away.
What do you do?
What should you do?
The answer is to stand there, and have the conversation. Let the person get to know you, and if it’s in the cards, make a new friend. Your mind is telling you to say, “fuck you,” and run away, but should you?
Is the person threatening you, attacking you, or disrespecting you? No, so, you wouldn’t and shouldn’t run away, and say, “fuck you.” Cursing at the person and running away doesn’t make sense.
It sounds funny, but a small percentage of us will curse and run away. Why? I can’t answer that. I cant tell you why people do what they do, but I can help you make the right choices if that’s what you want to do. This whole article is about fighting random thoughts that interfere with our lives while we’re working, completing a task, or speaking with someone. The reason why this is an issue in the first place is because we’re told to listen and pay attention to our thoughts, but if our thoughts aren’t “good,” then we must dismiss them.
This leads me to my next point, “knowing the difference between right and wrong.” If you know the difference between right and wrong, then you know which thoughts you should dismiss because acting them out would either be wrong, or not make sense in a given situation. Remember the actions you take, and your behavior, weather physical, or verbal, must make sense. No one can see your thoughts, and people cannot read your mind. Having the thought to curse at someone who is trying to be your friend, is nothing more than a passing thought so long as you don’t act on it.
How did we get here? I don’t know. I think the mind should be silent, but most people do have a busy mind. I have a busy mind, but it wasn’t always that way. There was a time when I was fully, 100% in the moment. Just living-acting and reacting. It would be extremely nice to find a way back to that point. It was a time when your mind wasn’t a beacon for the thoughts and emotions of others.
It was a time when your mind was your own, no distractions, no interference, and no delays. 100% fully in the moment.
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