Please Don’t….

If you want to help, help.  If you don’t, don’t.


 

Everybody needs somebody.  It doesn’t matter who you are, how great and talented you might be, or how much money you have.  At some point, we all need help.

Mr. X: “I just graduated college.  I was the most talented painter in my class, but for some reason, I can’t seem to get a job.”

Mr. Y: “Well Mr. X, I know Mr. Z.  Mr. Z owns his own art gallery and is always looking to purchase artwork from new talent.”

Mr. X allows Mr. Y to hook him up with Mr. Z because Mr. X needs a job.  Two years later, Mr. Y becomes resentful and angry at Mr. X because Mr. X is doing really well for himself and became a top selling artist.

Mr. Y continuously throws it up in Mr. X’s face  that it’s because of him that he got the job in the first place.  Mr. X can’t even enjoy the fruit of his labor.

There will come a time when you’ll realize what your capable of, and also, come to grips with your shortcomings.  At that point, you will look elsewhere for someone to help in those areas, because face it, if you don’t, you’ll be stuck in neutral.

To all those Mr. Y’s out there; No one wants to feel imprisoned because of your help.  Please don’t.  If you’re going to help someone out, do it out of the kindness of your heart.  Do it because you want to help, and because you really want Mr. X to become successful.

If your intentions aren’t genuine, Mr. X will see that eventually.  Mr. X, please don’t use people.  Mr. Y could be feeling the way he does because he feels used.  Thank Mr. Y, and let him know your decision to have him speak to Mr. Z was because out of many others, you trusted him.  Perhaps, when you become successful, you can repay him with dinner?

Have A Freakin Good Night

 

 

Training; Appearance and Decisions

How’s everyone doing with their weight training routines?  Today is the first day of July, can you believe it?  2019 is just about half way gone, and as I promised in January, we’d be taking this journey together.

So here we are.  Are you dropping those pounds?  I know I wanted a tighter – harder body, and I’m not even close to what I envisioned for myself at this point, but I am still going to the gym.  I’m not in beast mode, but I have been consistent.  I just completed my second consecutive week of three training days, and boy, am I sore as shit.

My workout has changed a lot so let me update you.  Right now, and for the remainder of the summer I’m going to continue with three days per week of weight training.  The days vary, but the routine is as follows:

Day 1 – Chest, Tri’s

Day 2 – Shoulders, Bi’s

Day 3 – Legs, Back, Abs

I discovered something about myself that I wanted to share, and I know everyone’s body is different, but just in case you’re in my boat, this will be helpful.  Do not get discouraged! 

It has been 14 or 15 years since I trained with weights, and if you’ve been out of the game for a while then you know part of your motivation to train again was that initial observation of your body.  It’s the one when you’re like, “Man, I’m out of shape.  I need to join the gym again.  I look like shit.  I feel like shit.”

There is however, another observation that’s more of a revelation, and this is why I’m asking you not to be discouraged.  I think I joined the Gym in October last year, but the other day I looked at myself again.  The opinion of myself was definitely a little more serious this time around.

I’m really out of shape I said to myself.  I’ve been training since October, and I know I was only training one or two days during the week up until two weeks ago, so I’m not putting unfair pressure on myself.  I’m just being honest.  My body, over the years, has become a blob mass.  It’s kind of funny, but true when I compare myself to a 230 pound lump of clay.  There’s no definition, and no shape.  Needless to say, I have work to do.

At this point, it easy for us to quit.  It’s easy to convince ourselves at this point that weight training isn’t doing anything for us because after-all, we’ve been lifting since October.  Do not get discouraged, and don’t quit.  Let this new, more serious realization of your appearance be the motivation that propels you into 2020.

Crossroads

Life is filled with decisions.  Everyday whether we realize it or not, we make choices.  Sometimes we make choices without thinking, which is why we don’t realize this in the first place, but let me remind you that you’re at a crossroad here.  Which direction will you move forward in?

Route 20    Route 18

You

If you chose Route 20, you’ve decided to continue with your current training routine.  You were honest with yourself, and you didn’t like what you saw, but you’re deciding to do something about it.  Within the near future you’re going to adjust your weight training routine by adding another day and turning up the intensity.  In six months you will go in front of the Judge (you) for another observation/revelation.  You will continue doing this until you’re satisfied with what you see, and then you will maintain.  Welcome to the future!

If you chose to vere right onto Route 18, turn off at the next exit.  Make a left, drive over the bridge and merge back onto the road you were just traveling on.  One minute up the road on the right is the Route 20 exit.  Go that way.


Have a Wonderful Day!

“At Will” Vs. Common Sense

If employees can leave their employer at any time, for any reason,  and without a prior notice, than that obviously means there’s no such thing as “Job Abandonment” in the state of Pennsylvania, and therefore, if in the future, the employee wanted to reapply, the employer cannot give”Job Abandonment” as the reason for not hiring him/her back, right?

Unless they have a contract specifying a certain length of time for employment, all employees in the State of Pennsylvania are considered “At Will.”

The “At Will” Doctrine was initiated in Pennsylvania in 1891, in order to help give people the freedom to chose their employment and leave employment without recourse from the employer, but for some reason, at some time, a spin was put on this.

Now, today, we seem to focus on the fact that an employer in Pennsylvania can dismiss an ‘At Will’ employee, at any time, for any reason, and without prior notice.

This spin has without a doubt, put employees at a disadvantage which is really fitting with what’s going on with employment today in general.

If you are healthy enough to work, and you really want to work, and you’re actively seeking employment, there should be an employer willing to hire you and offer you a job that fits your qualifications.  If you’re healthy and capable of performing your job responsibilities, and you really want to work, that should be enough for you to keep your job.

It just seems to me that if an employer fires you on the spot, there’s a very personal reason for why you’re getting fired because if you want to work and you’re capable of working then there shouldn’t be any problems on the job in the first place that couldn’t be worked out or adjusted to.  With this in mind, it seems employers are more often than not, hiding behind the “At Will” Doctrine, while making job seekers feel they’re “just lucky to have a job nowadays.”

I know someone who walked out of a place of employment because his supervisor was speaking to him disrespectfully and threatening to make him perform tasks that weren’t in his original job description because he couldn’t cover a shift.

Twice this employee was in a meeting and twice, a similar conversation took place.  After the second time this employee walked out and never came back.  A year later, he tried to reapply, and the employer said he wasn’t rehirable because he abandoned his job.  He was an “At Will” employee.  How could he be a non-rehirable based on job abandonment?

Screw that!  Right here on my blog I’ve talked about self-worth, and people understanding and giving credit to themselves for what they bring to a place of employment.  Employers should feel lucky when they rope in an employee who’s really qualified and cares about his job.  It is a job market where people compete for work.

In closing, I would like to mention if an employer can fire an uncontracted employee at any time without a prior notice, then they should be required by law to  provide a reason why.

Think how it must feel if you were released, let go, or fired from a job and not given a reason.  How are you supposed to improve yourself?  How are you supposed to ensure this doesn’t happen to you again if you don’t even know what you did wrong?


 

Photo by Ashutosh Sonwani from Pexels

Career; Separation and Hate

6/15/20019


 

What’s up everyone?  How ya’ll doing?  If you’ve been keeping up with my blog here then you probably read “Show Quote; Scene Making Sense,” and I hope life hasn’t hit you with a spinning heel kick to the balls like it has me.

Yup things were going great.  I was on my way to work, I had a few days left before break, and all of a sudden, BAM!  I was rear ended.  A spinning heel kick to the balls and a big steaming shit right in my mouth.  That’s how it goes.  I am okay.  I will fight to keep my head above water, and I’ll fight to win because life shows us no mercy.


 

Moving forward, there’s been a lot of talk about careers.   There’s also been a lot of hating going on, and I really don’t like using the word ‘hating’ in situations involving work, and I made a promise to not give anymore attention to negativity so I’m briefly going to talk about careers while gingerly intertwining hate into the conversation.

Career path/Future Path

When discussing your future or your future path there’s a focus on the individual level.  Individuality is something I really stress because I love the fact that we’re all different.  It’s fascinating to me.  Nothing is more interesting than watching a professional at work; a master of his/her craft.

I watched the college wrestling finals because I wanted to see the two top wrestlers (in each weight class) in the Nation, compete, and it was like watching art in motion.  There is a future in the cards for the world, but your future will be your world as it applies to you, and this includes all the symbolism and clues that go along with it.  The future path, which includes your career path, is about individuality, self-realization, maturity, and self-awareness.

Your career path is your method of getting paid, which ultimately sets you apart.  There’s a separation between those who can, and those who can’t, and those who do, and those who don’t.  Separation causes hate.

A position with ABC Company required a high school diploma.  100 people applied.  Everyone was happy.  A position with ABC Company then required a Bachelor’s Degree.  40 people applied.  There were 60 haters who weren’t qualified.  A position with ABC Company then required a Master’s Degree.  15 people applied.  There were 85 unqualified haters.

ABC Company is very successful.  They want the most qualified candidates, and more importantly, they want people who want a career within their company.  A position with ABC Company requires a Master’s Degree, and a clean background check.  10 people applied.  There were 85 unqualified haters, and 5 haters who were qualified criminals.

1 person got the job.  There were 9 jealous people.

The following week, the person who got the job put his new suit on and drove to ABC Company.  On his way into the office building he was faced with an angry mob of protestors.  They had signs and chanted, “no work, no money.”  Some of them were even throwing rocks and bottles at him and the ABC Building.

He passed the security guard, who ignored him, and headed to the elevator.  The elevator guy threw an evil look in his direction before pressing the button to the floor he was going to.  He greeted the woman sweeping the floor, but she just gave him a fake smile.  The two secretaries gave him the middle finger when his back was turned, and the guys washing his office windows were cursing at him, but he couldn’t hear them because they were outside.

He worked at ABC Company for a year.  As soon as his boss got his Master’s Degree, he fired him.


 

LOL Have A Wonderful Night

 

Show Quote, Scene Making Sense

Let me first say that I loved the original Karate Kid.  Parts two and three were excellent as well, but there was something about the original.  Maybe it was because I could identify a little bit with Daniel Larusso since he was from Newark, New Jersey, and I was a kid growing up in New Jersey when it came out.

Then they remade the Original with Will Smith, and to be honest, I didn’t really go for it.  I like Will Smith, but the Karate Kid was a movie that just couldn’t be remade.

The best thing they could’ve done however, they did.  Cobra Kai!  I thought it was going to be corny, but I’m super impressed.  I just finished watching the last Episode of the first season, and it’s amazing.  The writing is excellent, the story line is believable and not far fetched, and believe me, there’s nothing cornballish about it.  It flows, and I’d much rather see the original cast of characters in their roles now moving forward, then having someone try to remake a masterpiece.

That brings me to the scene before the All Valley Karate Tournament when William Zabka (Sense Lawrence) is speaking to his students about “No Mercy.”


 

“The older you get the more you’re going to learn that life isn’t fair.  You wake up one morning feeling great, and life throws a spinning heel kick to your balls and takes a big steaming shit in your mouth. (LOL😆)  You get an F on a test, get suspended, fall in love with a girl, and another dude comes and steals her away.  Your car gets set on fire.  Just when you think things are going good, everything falls apart.  That’s how it goes.  Life shows no mercy. ..we do whatever it takes to keep our heads above water, we do whatever it takes to keep moving forward.  We do whatever it takes to win!”

                                                                                                   –William Zabka Cobra Kai

This scene really resonated with me because it’s the absolute truth.  Life shows no mercy.  That’s how it goes.  The sooner we except this, the better off we’ll be.  This scene just woke me up, it motivated me.  Seriously.  Life will beat you into submission if you allow it.

I hope everyone is having a wonderful year, and making the most out of every day.  Let this scene and this quote motivate all y’all.


 

Have A wonderful Night

 

Pennsylvania News Briefing

6/1/2019


 

Up until yesterday, Friday, May 31, police were allowed to stop and search an individual if they were carrying a concealed weapon.

The court decided a police officer’s KNOWLEDGE that a person is carrying a gun no longer grants reasonable suspicion to detain and investigate.

My Opinion- Awesome decision by the court, and a major win for we the people because think about it….if knowledge is the key word here as shown in all caps, what’s stopping a police officer from looking at a list of gun owners with concealed carrying permits and targeting someone on the list for no other reason than the fact they own a weapon and have a license to carry and conceal it?

I do not own a gun, but this article caught my attention because it actually benefits citizens, prevents unnecessary harassment, and prevents or eliminates the opportunity of detainment without reason.  It gives a little more freedom back to we the people.


 

Las Vegas Sands Corp. sold its Bethlehem Casino to WInd Creek Hospitality for $1.3 billion, a decision that was final almost twenty months after the initial sale was announced.


 

Life is interesting, and things always have a funny way of working out.

When you don’t lie, and you have nothing to hide…well…just pull up a chair and watch the show.  Up and down, highs and lows, stuck without faith and hardships grow.   🤘  Summer is coming, the circle it shines,  encircled the center, then twisted through time.  ❤⌛🙏🤟😛

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  Have A Wonderful Day

Checking In – Catching You Up..

5/25/2019


What’s up everyone how are you?  I hope you are all doing well, getting out there and living your lives, and trying to be the best person you can be.  For real.

I was just watching a preview of the movie, Noah.  It was the one that came out in 2014 with Russell Crowe and Jennifer Connelly.  The part of the movie being shown was Russell Crowe’s narration of the creation of Earth as written in Genesis, and it was really really interesting.

In my mind I was just imagining God as this non-physical entity, flying through space looking for a home, at the same time Earth was forming.  At the end of the 7-day creation period, everything was good, and in perfect harmony.  It showed Adam and Eve as light bodies or light beings, pure, and innocent.  Of course the snake comes along, Adam eats the apple, sin is committed, and murder ensues, but this whole scenario got me thinking.

In my opinion, and I do say my opinion because people will jump all over me saying this; I think human origin has been, and perhaps, will always be a thorn in the side of humanity.  Where did we come from?

Finding an answer to that question is almost impossible, but after watching that scene in Noah I wondered about the idea of Adam and Eve as light bodies.  What if they were?  What if, today, one man and one woman – soulmates, found each other and connected, and stole the light of the world, but this time, they didn’t sin.  That would take us all the way back to creation, and if they didn’t sin, well, that could be the end of humanity.

It’s something to think about.


 

What’s everyone doing for Memorial Day?  This year Memorial Day is Monday, May 27th.

For me Memorial Day hasn’t quite been the same since leaving New Jersey.  In New Jersey, Memorial Day is one of those special weekends where everyone who lives in the Northern portion of the state, invades the middle and southern coastal areas for beach access.

It’s really funny now that I’m looking back.  The people who live in these areas year-around really hated us Northerners for over-populating their cities and towns, partying, and creating all types of traffic issues, but hey, their economies thrived because of it.

LOL  😆😛🚗🚐🚲🛴🚗🚗🚗🚗🚗

Personally, I didn’t make any special plans this year.  I’ll be around.  Hopefully, soon, I can start finding some new Pennsylvania traditions.


 

B-Ball 🏀🏀👍

It has been a while since we discussed basketball, and that’s probably because the 76ers were eliminated from the championship race.  There is a game tonight though.  Tonight at 8:30 is game 6 for the Milwaukee Bucks and Toronto Raptors.  The Raptor lead the series 3-2.  The winner of the series will play the Golden State Warriors for the NBA Championship.


Dating Sites?  💑

There are so so many dating sites on the internet, and I swore that I would never use an internet dating site to meet someone, but that was when I was twenty,  Now, in my thirties, my opinion towards dating sites has changed, and I did join one, but I still haven’t met anyone.

Has anyone had any luck?  I’m starting to wonder if these sites are even real.  Are the people on them real? Are the profiles real?  If you joined a dating site and met someone, please write in and let me know what site you’re using, and how much if anything did you pay to become a member.  I’m definitely interested.


 

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Write in, say what’s up, share your feelings…whatever.

Have A Wonderful Weekend!

Excuse me, What Isle is Love In?

So I went to CVS to drop something off that I eventually had to go back for, and eventually,  I did.  On my way out, I was walking through the isles, and I noticed there was a woman working there stocking the shelves.  She was a fine woman.

She was bending over stocking the lower shelves.  Then she stood up to stock the upper shelves.  The she bent over again.  I was entranced, looking at her as I was walking out of the store.

When I got to the corner, I realized oh shit!  I left the store without paying for the water I was now drinking.  I said oh let me run back there and pay for it, and I’ll get to see the woman again as well.

I went back and she was now on the register.  I apologized and paid for the water.  You know, kind of being flirty a little.  I smiled, and she smiled back, then I left to go to the gym. I was in a rush.

While I was at the gym I was thinking about her bending over and obviously I had to go back there again to pick something up I dropped off earlier.

When I walked into the store for the third time, Bobby Caldwell was playing on the store radio.  “I came back to let you know, I gotta thing for you, etc.”  That’s before my time, but the timing couldn’t be more perfect!

I’m like man if this ain’t synchronicity at its finest, I don’t know what is.  So I played along.  The woman was stocking the shelves again so I casually walked into the next isle  across from where she was, and I pretended to be browsing the shelf directly opposite of her.  The song was still playing, and I was humming it trying to set the mood and get her to notice me.

I thought maybe she would see me in the other isle looking at her across the shelf, and laugh, maybe connecting the music the fact that I was just in there flirting with her and now I was back again???

Ahhh.  She didn’t get it.  Whatever, I guess I was the only one feeling it.  I don’t know.

Historically Speaking

I love history, and I especially love places that have a storied history.  I grew up in Northeastern New Jersey in a town that was home to the Thomas Edison Museum.  Not too far away was Morristown, a place in New Jersey known as the Military Capital of the American Revolution.  If you think about it, living anywhere within the 13 original colonial states puts in the midst of American History.

Now, I live in Pennsylvania, and you probably know this if you’ve been following my blog.  I’ve been here for almost ten years now, and it has taken some time for me to get over New Jersey – the Garden State – and all the wonderful history it was known for.

Pennsylvania, however, has quite a history itself, and now that I’m settling in, my curiosity is growing.  I mean, immediately, things like Ben Franklin, Philadelphia and the Declaration of Independence, and the Liberty Bell come to mind.

The featured photo you see above was taken by me this past Saturday, I noticed it while walking to get my haircut, and I’ve heard stories before about the hiding of the Liberty Bell, but I did not know Allentown was formally known as Northampton.  Today, Northampton is a completely different and separate town here in Pennsylvania.

But back to the Liberty Bell…

like I said, I’ve heard stories before going back twenty years or so about America hiding the Liberty Bell from the British Army during the Revolution, but seeing the sign kind of confirmed the rumors.  It also made me want to research the situation.

Here’s what I discovered….

The Liberty Bell is one of the most iconic symbols representing American freedom and independence.

(When I first moved to Pennsylvania, Pennsylvania was known as the State of Independence as shown on a welcoming sign if you crossed over the border coming from New Jersey on Rt. 78, but someone changed it to something about being happy.  I’m upset about that. Just saying.)

So, the Liberty Bell is one of the most iconic symbols representing American freedom and independence.  It was used to summon lawmakers to legislative meetings, and it was cracked shortly after its arrival in Philadelphia.  I guess it was rung to hard, but craftsmen John Pass and John Stow repaired it twice.

After America secured its independence from Britian, the Bell disappeared, kind of, for about 60 years, and finally resurfaced in the 1830s.  I would like to say how amazing all this is considering how relatively new American history is.

The connection between Allentown and the Liberty Bell is as follows…in September 1777, the British defeated George Washington’s troops at Brandywine Creek.  Citizens, who were in a panic and defenseless against British occupancy ordered several Bells including the Liberty Bell be removed from the State House and hidden to prevent the British from melting them and making weapons.  The Liberty Bell was hidden in the basement of an Allentown Church.

People originally from Pennsylvania, and hard core history buffs will probably dispute this and say the Bell was hidden in Quakertown.  I don’t know enough to invite myself in on this argument, but as part of my research, I’ll gladly listen to all sides.

I’m looking forward to it.