Excuse me, What Isle is Love In?

So I went to CVS to drop something off that I eventually had to go back for, and eventually,  I did.  On my way out, I was walking through the isles, and I noticed there was a woman working there stocking the shelves.  She was a fine woman.

She was bending over stocking the lower shelves.  Then she stood up to stock the upper shelves.  The she bent over again.  I was entranced, looking at her as I was walking out of the store.

When I got to the corner, I realized oh shit!  I left the store without paying for the water I was now drinking.  I said oh let me run back there and pay for it, and I’ll get to see the woman again as well.

I went back and she was now on the register.  I apologized and paid for the water.  You know, kind of being flirty a little.  I smiled, and she smiled back, then I left to go to the gym. I was in a rush.

While I was at the gym I was thinking about her bending over and obviously I had to go back there again to pick something up I dropped off earlier.

When I walked into the store for the third time, Bobby Caldwell was playing on the store radio.  “I came back to let you know, I gotta thing for you, etc.”  That’s before my time, but the timing couldn’t be more perfect!

I’m like man if this ain’t synchronicity at its finest, I don’t know what is.  So I played along.  The woman was stocking the shelves again so I casually walked into the next isle  across from where she was, and I pretended to be browsing the shelf directly opposite of her.  The song was still playing, and I was humming it trying to set the mood and get her to notice me.

I thought maybe she would see me in the other isle looking at her across the shelf, and laugh, maybe connecting the music the fact that I was just in there flirting with her and now I was back again???

Ahhh.  She didn’t get it.  Whatever, I guess I was the only one feeling it.  I don’t know.

Historically Speaking

I love history, and I especially love places that have a storied history.  I grew up in Northeastern New Jersey in a town that was home to the Thomas Edison Museum.  Not too far away was Morristown, a place in New Jersey known as the Military Capital of the American Revolution.  If you think about it, living anywhere within the 13 original colonial states puts in the midst of American History.

Now, I live in Pennsylvania, and you probably know this if you’ve been following my blog.  I’ve been here for almost ten years now, and it has taken some time for me to get over New Jersey – the Garden State – and all the wonderful history it was known for.

Pennsylvania, however, has quite a history itself, and now that I’m settling in, my curiosity is growing.  I mean, immediately, things like Ben Franklin, Philadelphia and the Declaration of Independence, and the Liberty Bell come to mind.

The featured photo you see above was taken by me this past Saturday, I noticed it while walking to get my haircut, and I’ve heard stories before about the hiding of the Liberty Bell, but I did not know Allentown was formally known as Northampton.  Today, Northampton is a completely different and separate town here in Pennsylvania.

But back to the Liberty Bell…

like I said, I’ve heard stories before going back twenty years or so about America hiding the Liberty Bell from the British Army during the Revolution, but seeing the sign kind of confirmed the rumors.  It also made me want to research the situation.

Here’s what I discovered….

The Liberty Bell is one of the most iconic symbols representing American freedom and independence.

(When I first moved to Pennsylvania, Pennsylvania was known as the State of Independence as shown on a welcoming sign if you crossed over the border coming from New Jersey on Rt. 78, but someone changed it to something about being happy.  I’m upset about that. Just saying.)

So, the Liberty Bell is one of the most iconic symbols representing American freedom and independence.  It was used to summon lawmakers to legislative meetings, and it was cracked shortly after its arrival in Philadelphia.  I guess it was rung to hard, but craftsmen John Pass and John Stow repaired it twice.

After America secured its independence from Britian, the Bell disappeared, kind of, for about 60 years, and finally resurfaced in the 1830s.  I would like to say how amazing all this is considering how relatively new American history is.

The connection between Allentown and the Liberty Bell is as follows…in September 1777, the British defeated George Washington’s troops at Brandywine Creek.  Citizens, who were in a panic and defenseless against British occupancy ordered several Bells including the Liberty Bell be removed from the State House and hidden to prevent the British from melting them and making weapons.  The Liberty Bell was hidden in the basement of an Allentown Church.

People originally from Pennsylvania, and hard core history buffs will probably dispute this and say the Bell was hidden in Quakertown.  I don’t know enough to invite myself in on this argument, but as part of my research, I’ll gladly listen to all sides.

I’m looking forward to it.

Natural Living

On the website eventcrazy.com, I just found an advertisement providing details about an event called the Spiritual Holistic Expo.

The event is located at Allentown Fairgrounds, 302 North 17th Street in Allentown P.A., and it will be held on Saturday, May 18th, and Sunday May 19th, from 10 am to 6pm.

Vendors from all over the Country will be there with their supplies and services supporting wellness and balance of the mind, body, and spirit.

This might be worth checking out if your into natural living and looking for help or guidance with a more holistic approach to your daily life.

Fuck You

Did you ever reach a point in your life when people you’ve known forever become unrecognizable?

Did you ever reach a point when you just have nothing to say?

The party came and went, you’re at a new point in your life.  You’re focused on being the best person you can be, making the most money you can make, and trying – trying, to put yourself in the company with people who at the very least, may have something in common with you.

I don’t know, I do things differently I guess.

Did people ever make fun of you to your face, and you just really didn’t notice it because you’re so upbeat and not even thinking that’s what’s happening?

Do people talk about you behind your back, and greet you not even two minutes later?

I don’t understand it.  I just think it’s sad when people need someone to laugh at in order to feel good and comfortable in their environment.

Hey, don’t worry about it.  Life is short, we’re here and gone.  Keep going.  I’m going to try-really try hard to avoid negativity, and by that I mean paying no attention to it.  I mean not talking about, and not thinking about it.

You will reach a point when you become focused on things that are of great importance to you, and when you do, you’ll notice something.  There’s a whole lot of unimportant shit going on around you…don’t let it in.

I’m about three things right now:

  1. Me
  2. My Career
  3. Relationships with the opposite sex.

Nothing else matters.  I’m easy, and very forward thinking.  I don’t remember yesterday, so if you’re dwelling on it, stay there.

You want respect, then give it.

You want trust, then earn it.

You want love, then come get it.

 

 

 

 

Mothers Day

After thinking about it, I’m not sure how a day of celebration could be enough for the women who have given us a place in the world.  That’s a very deep way of thinking about it, but it’s the truth, and as time passes and we get older, we grow further apart from that special woman.

This Sunday, May 14th is Mothers Day, and I hope you all enjoy this very special day as it is yours.  Thank you for coddling and nurturing us as babies.  Thank you for teaching us how to walk and providing us with a safe haven to feel secure in. 

Thank you for dealing with us when we were grouchy, miserable, and lost during our teenage years.  Thank you especially for not forgetting us now that we’re adults and all grown up.

As a mothers love for a son or daughter remains in the years of our innocence, we will always be your baby despite how old we get, and for that, you are and will always be loved. 

Happy Mothers Day!  

 

The Push – part dos

Your starting point is your choice.  Ground up, or Top Down, it’s totally up to you.

Personally, I like to start from the top.  My approach is Top Down, outside in.  That means starting with your physical appearance and what others can see, and then addressing internal issues.

Twenty five years ago maybe you had your hair cut every two or three weeks, but right now, today, you have someone cutting it once every four months.  There’s a good two months when your neck is all hairy and the hair is just sticking out in all types of weird ways from your collar.

Having you hair cut made you feel good because…you looked good.  There’s no secret there.  If you like the way you look, you’ll feel better about yourself.  There’s a saying, “look good, feel good,” and it’s all about confidence.

As I’m writing this, I just started laughing to myself because I was in a hole, and I know that some people could’ve been in a hole so deep, they let themselves go for years and years and years.😆.  I can laugh at this because I was there.  Two years ago I saw a shirt hanging in my closet that I wore in 1999.  ..I couldn’t believe I still owned that shirt.

Anyways….Hair cuts, grooming, new modern clothes, and footwear are ways to help improve our look.  Keeping up to date with our  appearance not only makes us feel good, but it increases our confidence, and it changes the way others see us as well.

Trust this.  Our outer appearance is what people see first obviously, so if you’re slipping in this area, people notice.  Well, people that care about you will notice.  If your neglect continues they’ll begin to wonder.

“Oh did you see Betty today.  She still has that jacket from like 10 years ago.  Is she poor, is she working, what’s she doing with her money, maybe she’s depressed.  I think Betty is smoking dope.”

Dieting and exercising, in my opinion, are on the border – meaning they’re the transition from outer to inner.  Dieting and exercising improves so many things, but specifically, they change our look and improve overall health.  Doing both moderately will help put us in a better state mentally, improve our health, and enable us to look better.  Exercising improves cardiovascular health, blood circulation, and thus, overall digestion.

Imagine your inner body is a pond.  Without circulation and movement the water gets stagnant and containimated.  When the water flows it stays clean for the most part and containmenants don’t have time to gather.  Even if you get out for a walk or sit on a stationary bike and peddle, that’s moving.

All of this this brings us back to The Push.  The refusal to let ourselves go and neglect our bodies puts us back in a position where we’re feeling good about ourselves.  We look good, and we know it.  We feel it, and we’re confident.  We might not standout, but we’re good with what we’re working with.  You’re not running home anymore, in fact you’re having a good time and enjoying yourself.

I’ll tell you this because I know it’s true.  Sometimes we get frustrated and upset with other people and choices we make, but it’s because something is off within us.  The root of our frustration is simply, not doing what we want.  You wanted to go shopping, but you didn’t, you wanted to run, but you decided not to, you wanted to reach out to contact a friend, but you didn’t, you wanted send a funny email, but you decided not to, and then, when the weekend came, you went out with some friends who were talking and laughing about how they did all the things you decided not to do.  The frustration within projected envy and a sense of jealousy.  The people around you picked up on your impatience.

You had nothing to say because you didn’t want to do anything, so you just stood there with a fake smile on your face and listened.  The people around you knew you weren’t yourself, and they couldn’t figure out why suddenly you were the quiet one in the group.

My advice is for you to do what you want.  Whatever it is, do it.  Don’t be a victim of self-abuse, meaning don’t beat yourself up later for not doing what you wanted to do now.  Don’t limit yourself.

Eventually, people’s views about Betty will change.  “Did you see Betty?  She just got her hair done, and it looks really good.  Did you see Mr. Smith with his new Pants?  He got a complete wardrobe update.  He’s looking super-stylish.  Boy, that Betty is in really good shape, she’s almost 40.

Eventually, Betty does all the things she wants to do, and she’s happy.  She has something to talk about.  She’s actively living, and wants to share her experiences.  She’s laughing and talking and the life of the party again.  She’s Pushing it.

Now Betty wonders why Joan isn’t herself.  “Did you see Joan at the party all quiet and standing there with that stupid fake smile.”  Joan’s running home now complaining about the place, the people, and everything else.


 

Push or Get Pushed!

 

Cinco de Mayo

Cinco de Mayo, or the Fifth of May is a Spanish celebration in remembrance of the Mexican’s Army victory over the French Empire.

The Battle of Puebla occurred on May 5th, 1862.  Mexico’s victory was surprising, and naturally provided a major boost in moral for the Mexican Army.  The French were better armed, more prepared, and outnumbered Mexican forces, but Mexico was inspired under President Benito Juarez. 

They not only slowed the French army, but they forced it to retreat, regroup, and Napoleon III had no other choice but to send additional manpower to site.  On May 9th, 1862, President Juarez declared Cinco de Mayo a national holiday.

Unfortunately, by the 17th of May, the French Army made a full recovery and were  victorious in their second attempt at the Second Battle of Puebla.  Eventually, the Capital fell and the French pushed on to Mexico City forcing Juarez’s Government into exile.

Either way, we’ll celebrate the day.  Happy Cinco de Mayo! 


Thank You

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The Push – part-uno

The push, is it real?  Easily identified, physical contact can and does happen, generally speaking of course, but what about the non-physical push?

The push that’s subtle, so subtle in fact, it’s a matter of personal feel.  Have you ever walked into a room or a store with a smile on your face and happiness in your heart only to have it washed away?  Did you ever arrive at a party or social gathering and think to yourself, man, something is just off here?

It’s a matter of personal opinion I guess, and the truth is that we really can’t control the vibe.  We can however, stay or go.  If we stay, we can do our best to enjoy ourselves, and provide comfort for those around us.

In my opinion, I do think we have an instinctual reaction to the atmosphere around us, and I don’t think we’re necessarily right or wrong for how we feel at certain events, around certain people, or in certain places.

If you show up somewhere and think it feels right, it probably is.  Conversely, if it doesn’t feel right, then more than likely you’re feeling not so safe, maybe uncomfortable, or rushed.  To get the most out of these experiences, and remember we need experiences, especially new ones and those where we’re stepping out of our comfort zones, we’re going to have to stick it out and ignore our feelings.

The whole situation is really strange, I know.  We’ve always been told to pay attention to our feelings, and if something doesn’t feel right, then it probably isn’t, but now we’re going against the grain.  We’re learning to ignore our feelings of doubt and push through them….

because…

We want to grow right?  We do.  We want spiritual growth don’t we?  We claim to be on a spiritual path, don’t we?

Some of us might be shy.  Some of us might not like being the new guy or girl in the group, and it’s way easier to run off, go home, and say ahh I didn’t like that place, or those people, but if we really want to grow and learn we must stay.

What about aging?  You know what’s interesting?  The aging process is interesting.

As time passes by, we change.  We change internally, externally physically, and mentally.  Our minds change, our feelings change, our thoughts change.  We may become more or less tolerant of certain things.  As all these changes take place, people come and go from our lives, and that’s not a coincidence.  The older you might have more in common with a person the younger you would’ve never given the time of day to.

We move and change our surroundings to accommodate what we enjoy and what we want to see more of.  This is obviously not a coincidence.  We’re actively building our lives.

So you see, change within us happens before we know it because..time flies.  Twenty years could pass, but it doesn’t seem like twenty years to us.  It is though.  You’re a different person, and you haven’t figured it out yet.  You woke up the other day lashing out at everyone around you because you were upset, but you were upset on the surface.  Below the surface is frustration because you’re not yet in alignment with the new you.

In comes the Spiritual Path.  In comes the need for personal time.  In comes the idea or the need for you figure things out.  Why?  It’s only natural.  You’re not who you were twenty years ago.  We know that’s true because we knew who we were, the problem is we haven’t figured out who we are now.  Let the past go.  Yup.  Just let it go, and focus on right now.

Once upon a time you were outgoing, friendly, and you had so many friends or small group of close friends.  Once upon a time everything felt right.  You knew what you wanted, where you wanted to go, and who you wanted to spend your time with.  Parties and social gatherings were awesome.  You had fun.  Leaving was never an option.  LoL, are you kidding.  You were the life of the party.

That was twenty-five, maybe thirty years ago.

Right now, nothing feels right.  You spend most of your time alone.  You feel alone, out of touch, and you’re ready to run back home.

And….you do, but for the last time.