Please Don’t….

If you want to help, help.  If you don’t, don’t.


 

Everybody needs somebody.  It doesn’t matter who you are, how great and talented you might be, or how much money you have.  At some point, we all need help.

Mr. X: “I just graduated college.  I was the most talented painter in my class, but for some reason, I can’t seem to get a job.”

Mr. Y: “Well Mr. X, I know Mr. Z.  Mr. Z owns his own art gallery and is always looking to purchase artwork from new talent.”

Mr. X allows Mr. Y to hook him up with Mr. Z because Mr. X needs a job.  Two years later, Mr. Y becomes resentful and angry at Mr. X because Mr. X is doing really well for himself and became a top selling artist.

Mr. Y continuously throws it up in Mr. X’s face  that it’s because of him that he got the job in the first place.  Mr. X can’t even enjoy the fruit of his labor.

There will come a time when you’ll realize what your capable of, and also, come to grips with your shortcomings.  At that point, you will look elsewhere for someone to help in those areas, because face it, if you don’t, you’ll be stuck in neutral.

To all those Mr. Y’s out there; No one wants to feel imprisoned because of your help.  Please don’t.  If you’re going to help someone out, do it out of the kindness of your heart.  Do it because you want to help, and because you really want Mr. X to become successful.

If your intentions aren’t genuine, Mr. X will see that eventually.  Mr. X, please don’t use people.  Mr. Y could be feeling the way he does because he feels used.  Thank Mr. Y, and let him know your decision to have him speak to Mr. Z was because out of many others, you trusted him.  Perhaps, when you become successful, you can repay him with dinner?

Have A Freakin Good Night

 

 

Career; Separation and Hate

6/15/20019


 

What’s up everyone?  How ya’ll doing?  If you’ve been keeping up with my blog here then you probably read “Show Quote; Scene Making Sense,” and I hope life hasn’t hit you with a spinning heel kick to the balls like it has me.

Yup things were going great.  I was on my way to work, I had a few days left before break, and all of a sudden, BAM!  I was rear ended.  A spinning heel kick to the balls and a big steaming shit right in my mouth.  That’s how it goes.  I am okay.  I will fight to keep my head above water, and I’ll fight to win because life shows us no mercy.


 

Moving forward, there’s been a lot of talk about careers.   There’s also been a lot of hating going on, and I really don’t like using the word ‘hating’ in situations involving work, and I made a promise to not give anymore attention to negativity so I’m briefly going to talk about careers while gingerly intertwining hate into the conversation.

Career path/Future Path

When discussing your future or your future path there’s a focus on the individual level.  Individuality is something I really stress because I love the fact that we’re all different.  It’s fascinating to me.  Nothing is more interesting than watching a professional at work; a master of his/her craft.

I watched the college wrestling finals because I wanted to see the two top wrestlers (in each weight class) in the Nation, compete, and it was like watching art in motion.  There is a future in the cards for the world, but your future will be your world as it applies to you, and this includes all the symbolism and clues that go along with it.  The future path, which includes your career path, is about individuality, self-realization, maturity, and self-awareness.

Your career path is your method of getting paid, which ultimately sets you apart.  There’s a separation between those who can, and those who can’t, and those who do, and those who don’t.  Separation causes hate.

A position with ABC Company required a high school diploma.  100 people applied.  Everyone was happy.  A position with ABC Company then required a Bachelor’s Degree.  40 people applied.  There were 60 haters who weren’t qualified.  A position with ABC Company then required a Master’s Degree.  15 people applied.  There were 85 unqualified haters.

ABC Company is very successful.  They want the most qualified candidates, and more importantly, they want people who want a career within their company.  A position with ABC Company requires a Master’s Degree, and a clean background check.  10 people applied.  There were 85 unqualified haters, and 5 haters who were qualified criminals.

1 person got the job.  There were 9 jealous people.

The following week, the person who got the job put his new suit on and drove to ABC Company.  On his way into the office building he was faced with an angry mob of protestors.  They had signs and chanted, “no work, no money.”  Some of them were even throwing rocks and bottles at him and the ABC Building.

He passed the security guard, who ignored him, and headed to the elevator.  The elevator guy threw an evil look in his direction before pressing the button to the floor he was going to.  He greeted the woman sweeping the floor, but she just gave him a fake smile.  The two secretaries gave him the middle finger when his back was turned, and the guys washing his office windows were cursing at him, but he couldn’t hear them because they were outside.

He worked at ABC Company for a year.  As soon as his boss got his Master’s Degree, he fired him.


 

LOL Have A Wonderful Night

 

Show Quote, Scene Making Sense

Let me first say that I loved the original Karate Kid.  Parts two and three were excellent as well, but there was something about the original.  Maybe it was because I could identify a little bit with Daniel Larusso since he was from Newark, New Jersey, and I was a kid growing up in New Jersey when it came out.

Then they remade the Original with Will Smith, and to be honest, I didn’t really go for it.  I like Will Smith, but the Karate Kid was a movie that just couldn’t be remade.

The best thing they could’ve done however, they did.  Cobra Kai!  I thought it was going to be corny, but I’m super impressed.  I just finished watching the last Episode of the first season, and it’s amazing.  The writing is excellent, the story line is believable and not far fetched, and believe me, there’s nothing cornballish about it.  It flows, and I’d much rather see the original cast of characters in their roles now moving forward, then having someone try to remake a masterpiece.

That brings me to the scene before the All Valley Karate Tournament when William Zabka (Sense Lawrence) is speaking to his students about “No Mercy.”


 

“The older you get the more you’re going to learn that life isn’t fair.  You wake up one morning feeling great, and life throws a spinning heel kick to your balls and takes a big steaming shit in your mouth. (LOL😆)  You get an F on a test, get suspended, fall in love with a girl, and another dude comes and steals her away.  Your car gets set on fire.  Just when you think things are going good, everything falls apart.  That’s how it goes.  Life shows no mercy. ..we do whatever it takes to keep our heads above water, we do whatever it takes to keep moving forward.  We do whatever it takes to win!”

                                                                                                   –William Zabka Cobra Kai

This scene really resonated with me because it’s the absolute truth.  Life shows no mercy.  That’s how it goes.  The sooner we except this, the better off we’ll be.  This scene just woke me up, it motivated me.  Seriously.  Life will beat you into submission if you allow it.

I hope everyone is having a wonderful year, and making the most out of every day.  Let this scene and this quote motivate all y’all.


 

Have A wonderful Night

 

Checking In – Catching You Up..

5/25/2019


What’s up everyone how are you?  I hope you are all doing well, getting out there and living your lives, and trying to be the best person you can be.  For real.

I was just watching a preview of the movie, Noah.  It was the one that came out in 2014 with Russell Crowe and Jennifer Connelly.  The part of the movie being shown was Russell Crowe’s narration of the creation of Earth as written in Genesis, and it was really really interesting.

In my mind I was just imagining God as this non-physical entity, flying through space looking for a home, at the same time Earth was forming.  At the end of the 7-day creation period, everything was good, and in perfect harmony.  It showed Adam and Eve as light bodies or light beings, pure, and innocent.  Of course the snake comes along, Adam eats the apple, sin is committed, and murder ensues, but this whole scenario got me thinking.

In my opinion, and I do say my opinion because people will jump all over me saying this; I think human origin has been, and perhaps, will always be a thorn in the side of humanity.  Where did we come from?

Finding an answer to that question is almost impossible, but after watching that scene in Noah I wondered about the idea of Adam and Eve as light bodies.  What if they were?  What if, today, one man and one woman – soulmates, found each other and connected, and stole the light of the world, but this time, they didn’t sin.  That would take us all the way back to creation, and if they didn’t sin, well, that could be the end of humanity.

It’s something to think about.


 

What’s everyone doing for Memorial Day?  This year Memorial Day is Monday, May 27th.

For me Memorial Day hasn’t quite been the same since leaving New Jersey.  In New Jersey, Memorial Day is one of those special weekends where everyone who lives in the Northern portion of the state, invades the middle and southern coastal areas for beach access.

It’s really funny now that I’m looking back.  The people who live in these areas year-around really hated us Northerners for over-populating their cities and towns, partying, and creating all types of traffic issues, but hey, their economies thrived because of it.

LOL  😆😛🚗🚐🚲🛴🚗🚗🚗🚗🚗

Personally, I didn’t make any special plans this year.  I’ll be around.  Hopefully, soon, I can start finding some new Pennsylvania traditions.


 

B-Ball 🏀🏀👍

It has been a while since we discussed basketball, and that’s probably because the 76ers were eliminated from the championship race.  There is a game tonight though.  Tonight at 8:30 is game 6 for the Milwaukee Bucks and Toronto Raptors.  The Raptor lead the series 3-2.  The winner of the series will play the Golden State Warriors for the NBA Championship.


Dating Sites?  💑

There are so so many dating sites on the internet, and I swore that I would never use an internet dating site to meet someone, but that was when I was twenty,  Now, in my thirties, my opinion towards dating sites has changed, and I did join one, but I still haven’t met anyone.

Has anyone had any luck?  I’m starting to wonder if these sites are even real.  Are the people on them real? Are the profiles real?  If you joined a dating site and met someone, please write in and let me know what site you’re using, and how much if anything did you pay to become a member.  I’m definitely interested.


 

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Have A Wonderful Weekend!

Excuse me, What Isle is Love In?

So I went to CVS to drop something off that I eventually had to go back for, and eventually,  I did.  On my way out, I was walking through the isles, and I noticed there was a woman working there stocking the shelves.  She was a fine woman.

She was bending over stocking the lower shelves.  Then she stood up to stock the upper shelves.  The she bent over again.  I was entranced, looking at her as I was walking out of the store.

When I got to the corner, I realized oh shit!  I left the store without paying for the water I was now drinking.  I said oh let me run back there and pay for it, and I’ll get to see the woman again as well.

I went back and she was now on the register.  I apologized and paid for the water.  You know, kind of being flirty a little.  I smiled, and she smiled back, then I left to go to the gym. I was in a rush.

While I was at the gym I was thinking about her bending over and obviously I had to go back there again to pick something up I dropped off earlier.

When I walked into the store for the third time, Bobby Caldwell was playing on the store radio.  “I came back to let you know, I gotta thing for you, etc.”  That’s before my time, but the timing couldn’t be more perfect!

I’m like man if this ain’t synchronicity at its finest, I don’t know what is.  So I played along.  The woman was stocking the shelves again so I casually walked into the next isle  across from where she was, and I pretended to be browsing the shelf directly opposite of her.  The song was still playing, and I was humming it trying to set the mood and get her to notice me.

I thought maybe she would see me in the other isle looking at her across the shelf, and laugh, maybe connecting the music the fact that I was just in there flirting with her and now I was back again???

Ahhh.  She didn’t get it.  Whatever, I guess I was the only one feeling it.  I don’t know.

Historically Speaking

I love history, and I especially love places that have a storied history.  I grew up in Northeastern New Jersey in a town that was home to the Thomas Edison Museum.  Not too far away was Morristown, a place in New Jersey known as the Military Capital of the American Revolution.  If you think about it, living anywhere within the 13 original colonial states puts in the midst of American History.

Now, I live in Pennsylvania, and you probably know this if you’ve been following my blog.  I’ve been here for almost ten years now, and it has taken some time for me to get over New Jersey – the Garden State – and all the wonderful history it was known for.

Pennsylvania, however, has quite a history itself, and now that I’m settling in, my curiosity is growing.  I mean, immediately, things like Ben Franklin, Philadelphia and the Declaration of Independence, and the Liberty Bell come to mind.

The featured photo you see above was taken by me this past Saturday, I noticed it while walking to get my haircut, and I’ve heard stories before about the hiding of the Liberty Bell, but I did not know Allentown was formally known as Northampton.  Today, Northampton is a completely different and separate town here in Pennsylvania.

But back to the Liberty Bell…

like I said, I’ve heard stories before going back twenty years or so about America hiding the Liberty Bell from the British Army during the Revolution, but seeing the sign kind of confirmed the rumors.  It also made me want to research the situation.

Here’s what I discovered….

The Liberty Bell is one of the most iconic symbols representing American freedom and independence.

(When I first moved to Pennsylvania, Pennsylvania was known as the State of Independence as shown on a welcoming sign if you crossed over the border coming from New Jersey on Rt. 78, but someone changed it to something about being happy.  I’m upset about that. Just saying.)

So, the Liberty Bell is one of the most iconic symbols representing American freedom and independence.  It was used to summon lawmakers to legislative meetings, and it was cracked shortly after its arrival in Philadelphia.  I guess it was rung to hard, but craftsmen John Pass and John Stow repaired it twice.

After America secured its independence from Britian, the Bell disappeared, kind of, for about 60 years, and finally resurfaced in the 1830s.  I would like to say how amazing all this is considering how relatively new American history is.

The connection between Allentown and the Liberty Bell is as follows…in September 1777, the British defeated George Washington’s troops at Brandywine Creek.  Citizens, who were in a panic and defenseless against British occupancy ordered several Bells including the Liberty Bell be removed from the State House and hidden to prevent the British from melting them and making weapons.  The Liberty Bell was hidden in the basement of an Allentown Church.

People originally from Pennsylvania, and hard core history buffs will probably dispute this and say the Bell was hidden in Quakertown.  I don’t know enough to invite myself in on this argument, but as part of my research, I’ll gladly listen to all sides.

I’m looking forward to it.

Fuck You

Did you ever reach a point in your life when people you’ve known forever become unrecognizable?

Did you ever reach a point when you just have nothing to say?

The party came and went, you’re at a new point in your life.  You’re focused on being the best person you can be, making the most money you can make, and trying – trying, to put yourself in the company with people who at the very least, may have something in common with you.

I don’t know, I do things differently I guess.

Did people ever make fun of you to your face, and you just really didn’t notice it because you’re so upbeat and not even thinking that’s what’s happening?

Do people talk about you behind your back, and greet you not even two minutes later?

I don’t understand it.  I just think it’s sad when people need someone to laugh at in order to feel good and comfortable in their environment.

Hey, don’t worry about it.  Life is short, we’re here and gone.  Keep going.  I’m going to try-really try hard to avoid negativity, and by that I mean paying no attention to it.  I mean not talking about, and not thinking about it.

You will reach a point when you become focused on things that are of great importance to you, and when you do, you’ll notice something.  There’s a whole lot of unimportant shit going on around you…don’t let it in.

I’m about three things right now:

  1. Me
  2. My Career
  3. Relationships with the opposite sex.

Nothing else matters.  I’m easy, and very forward thinking.  I don’t remember yesterday, so if you’re dwelling on it, stay there.

You want respect, then give it.

You want trust, then earn it.

You want love, then come get it.

 

 

 

 

Mothers Day

After thinking about it, I’m not sure how a day of celebration could be enough for the women who have given us a place in the world.  That’s a very deep way of thinking about it, but it’s the truth, and as time passes and we get older, we grow further apart from that special woman.

This Sunday, May 14th is Mothers Day, and I hope you all enjoy this very special day as it is yours.  Thank you for coddling and nurturing us as babies.  Thank you for teaching us how to walk and providing us with a safe haven to feel secure in. 

Thank you for dealing with us when we were grouchy, miserable, and lost during our teenage years.  Thank you especially for not forgetting us now that we’re adults and all grown up.

As a mothers love for a son or daughter remains in the years of our innocence, we will always be your baby despite how old we get, and for that, you are and will always be loved. 

Happy Mothers Day!  

 

The Push – part dos

Your starting point is your choice.  Ground up, or Top Down, it’s totally up to you.

Personally, I like to start from the top.  My approach is Top Down, outside in.  That means starting with your physical appearance and what others can see, and then addressing internal issues.

Twenty five years ago maybe you had your hair cut every two or three weeks, but right now, today, you have someone cutting it once every four months.  There’s a good two months when your neck is all hairy and the hair is just sticking out in all types of weird ways from your collar.

Having you hair cut made you feel good because…you looked good.  There’s no secret there.  If you like the way you look, you’ll feel better about yourself.  There’s a saying, “look good, feel good,” and it’s all about confidence.

As I’m writing this, I just started laughing to myself because I was in a hole, and I know that some people could’ve been in a hole so deep, they let themselves go for years and years and years.😆.  I can laugh at this because I was there.  Two years ago I saw a shirt hanging in my closet that I wore in 1999.  ..I couldn’t believe I still owned that shirt.

Anyways….Hair cuts, grooming, new modern clothes, and footwear are ways to help improve our look.  Keeping up to date with our  appearance not only makes us feel good, but it increases our confidence, and it changes the way others see us as well.

Trust this.  Our outer appearance is what people see first obviously, so if you’re slipping in this area, people notice.  Well, people that care about you will notice.  If your neglect continues they’ll begin to wonder.

“Oh did you see Betty today.  She still has that jacket from like 10 years ago.  Is she poor, is she working, what’s she doing with her money, maybe she’s depressed.  I think Betty is smoking dope.”

Dieting and exercising, in my opinion, are on the border – meaning they’re the transition from outer to inner.  Dieting and exercising improves so many things, but specifically, they change our look and improve overall health.  Doing both moderately will help put us in a better state mentally, improve our health, and enable us to look better.  Exercising improves cardiovascular health, blood circulation, and thus, overall digestion.

Imagine your inner body is a pond.  Without circulation and movement the water gets stagnant and containimated.  When the water flows it stays clean for the most part and containmenants don’t have time to gather.  Even if you get out for a walk or sit on a stationary bike and peddle, that’s moving.

All of this this brings us back to The Push.  The refusal to let ourselves go and neglect our bodies puts us back in a position where we’re feeling good about ourselves.  We look good, and we know it.  We feel it, and we’re confident.  We might not standout, but we’re good with what we’re working with.  You’re not running home anymore, in fact you’re having a good time and enjoying yourself.

I’ll tell you this because I know it’s true.  Sometimes we get frustrated and upset with other people and choices we make, but it’s because something is off within us.  The root of our frustration is simply, not doing what we want.  You wanted to go shopping, but you didn’t, you wanted to run, but you decided not to, you wanted to reach out to contact a friend, but you didn’t, you wanted send a funny email, but you decided not to, and then, when the weekend came, you went out with some friends who were talking and laughing about how they did all the things you decided not to do.  The frustration within projected envy and a sense of jealousy.  The people around you picked up on your impatience.

You had nothing to say because you didn’t want to do anything, so you just stood there with a fake smile on your face and listened.  The people around you knew you weren’t yourself, and they couldn’t figure out why suddenly you were the quiet one in the group.

My advice is for you to do what you want.  Whatever it is, do it.  Don’t be a victim of self-abuse, meaning don’t beat yourself up later for not doing what you wanted to do now.  Don’t limit yourself.

Eventually, people’s views about Betty will change.  “Did you see Betty?  She just got her hair done, and it looks really good.  Did you see Mr. Smith with his new Pants?  He got a complete wardrobe update.  He’s looking super-stylish.  Boy, that Betty is in really good shape, she’s almost 40.

Eventually, Betty does all the things she wants to do, and she’s happy.  She has something to talk about.  She’s actively living, and wants to share her experiences.  She’s laughing and talking and the life of the party again.  She’s Pushing it.

Now Betty wonders why Joan isn’t herself.  “Did you see Joan at the party all quiet and standing there with that stupid fake smile.”  Joan’s running home now complaining about the place, the people, and everything else.


 

Push or Get Pushed!

 

The Push – part-uno

The push, is it real?  Easily identified, physical contact can and does happen, generally speaking of course, but what about the non-physical push?

The push that’s subtle, so subtle in fact, it’s a matter of personal feel.  Have you ever walked into a room or a store with a smile on your face and happiness in your heart only to have it washed away?  Did you ever arrive at a party or social gathering and think to yourself, man, something is just off here?

It’s a matter of personal opinion I guess, and the truth is that we really can’t control the vibe.  We can however, stay or go.  If we stay, we can do our best to enjoy ourselves, and provide comfort for those around us.

In my opinion, I do think we have an instinctual reaction to the atmosphere around us, and I don’t think we’re necessarily right or wrong for how we feel at certain events, around certain people, or in certain places.

If you show up somewhere and think it feels right, it probably is.  Conversely, if it doesn’t feel right, then more than likely you’re feeling not so safe, maybe uncomfortable, or rushed.  To get the most out of these experiences, and remember we need experiences, especially new ones and those where we’re stepping out of our comfort zones, we’re going to have to stick it out and ignore our feelings.

The whole situation is really strange, I know.  We’ve always been told to pay attention to our feelings, and if something doesn’t feel right, then it probably isn’t, but now we’re going against the grain.  We’re learning to ignore our feelings of doubt and push through them….

because…

We want to grow right?  We do.  We want spiritual growth don’t we?  We claim to be on a spiritual path, don’t we?

Some of us might be shy.  Some of us might not like being the new guy or girl in the group, and it’s way easier to run off, go home, and say ahh I didn’t like that place, or those people, but if we really want to grow and learn we must stay.

What about aging?  You know what’s interesting?  The aging process is interesting.

As time passes by, we change.  We change internally, externally physically, and mentally.  Our minds change, our feelings change, our thoughts change.  We may become more or less tolerant of certain things.  As all these changes take place, people come and go from our lives, and that’s not a coincidence.  The older you might have more in common with a person the younger you would’ve never given the time of day to.

We move and change our surroundings to accommodate what we enjoy and what we want to see more of.  This is obviously not a coincidence.  We’re actively building our lives.

So you see, change within us happens before we know it because..time flies.  Twenty years could pass, but it doesn’t seem like twenty years to us.  It is though.  You’re a different person, and you haven’t figured it out yet.  You woke up the other day lashing out at everyone around you because you were upset, but you were upset on the surface.  Below the surface is frustration because you’re not yet in alignment with the new you.

In comes the Spiritual Path.  In comes the need for personal time.  In comes the idea or the need for you figure things out.  Why?  It’s only natural.  You’re not who you were twenty years ago.  We know that’s true because we knew who we were, the problem is we haven’t figured out who we are now.  Let the past go.  Yup.  Just let it go, and focus on right now.

Once upon a time you were outgoing, friendly, and you had so many friends or small group of close friends.  Once upon a time everything felt right.  You knew what you wanted, where you wanted to go, and who you wanted to spend your time with.  Parties and social gatherings were awesome.  You had fun.  Leaving was never an option.  LoL, are you kidding.  You were the life of the party.

That was twenty-five, maybe thirty years ago.

Right now, nothing feels right.  You spend most of your time alone.  You feel alone, out of touch, and you’re ready to run back home.

And….you do, but for the last time.