Recover Your Sanity; Compromise, Consideration, Respect

Out of all the articles I’ve published on my website over the last two years, I think this is probably the most important.

You don’t know what people are thinking.  You don’t know what people have on their minds, or what kinds of pressures they feel.

Some people do have an inner clock with a sense of urgency.

Just because someone is walking around with a smile on their face that doesn’t mean everything is okay.

The point I’m trying to make is that it’s foolish to make assumptions.

You might be a miserable person who’s looking for a confrontation, and you pick the person with a smile on her/his face, but you have no idea what’s behind that smile.

I was listening to Coast to Coast last night as I usually do, and the host, George Noory was making a point about how edgy society seems.  Generally, people seem upset and miserable.

As funny as it sounds, I think the ‘Celestine Prophecy’ offers a good explanation for why that is.  Society and culture is changing, but because most people are so resistant to change, we’re becoming extreme in our attitudes and beliefs.

🙏How do we get back to middle ground?  Hold your hands apart, palms facing each other, and out in front of you, and let that represent the extremes.  Now, bring them together. 🙏You now have praying hands representing middle ground.

The state of mind of people operating at extremes is war and conflict because they’ve taken an extreme stance concerning personal beliefs and attitude.  You don’t have to go that way, trust me.  If you do, then you’ve lost the middle ground, and middle ground is where you need to be.  The middle ground is everything.  It’s logical reasoning, and the place where you are in control.

In a Country where we are free to do and say almost anything we want, there is no place for extremism. We should not be in a position where we have to take an extreme stance on anything because people are free to do what they want.  Right?

If your personal privacy, space, or rights to think, act, choose, or govern yourself have been violated then you have to take a stance for what’s yours, not for what you want other people to believe or accept.

I’ve been told this so I’m going to share the information with you…the war we are in right now is spiritual in nature, and that’s not a cop out for physical violence, that’s the truth.

Extremist do not understand that when the consciousness of humanity is changing, it’s a spiritual issue.  Physical violence and war doesn’t change consciousness, belief, personal attitude, and faith does.

Jesse Ventura made the comment that war is man at his lowest point.  War and physical violence is the answer when there is nothing left and everything else has failed.

Because it is spiritual, you just have to be active and involved.

Here’s how we get back to middle ground:

The middle ground is contentment.  It’s agreement, and it’s balance.  If you cannot find middle ground within a group, then the group isn’t respecting your needs as an individual.  If they aren’t willing to consider and respect what you want, then that group isn’t for you.  Leave it.

If you cannot reach middle ground with a partner, then that person isn’t considerate/respectful to your needs as an individual within the relationship.  That person isn’t for you.  Leave him/her.

All groups and relationships are made up of individuals.  As individuals we should know what we want and need, and we also must accept that when we join a group or we’re involved in a relationship, we will have to compromise something at some some point.  I like to eat at 5pm, but my partner enjoys eating at 7pm…we agree to eat at 6pm.

Compromise, Consideration, and Respect….for yourself, and for other people.

That’s how we recover our sanity, and get back to middle ground. 

If you aren’t willing to compromise, and have consideration and respect for me, then don’t tell me what to do, and frankly, get the fuck out of my life because you aren’t adding anything positive to it.  You’re a drain.  I’m sorry I exposed you.

As an individual:

  1. If you participate in anything that has rules and structure, the rules have to be followed by everyone.  No exceptions.  If I have to follow rules, and you don’t or refuse to then eventually, one of us will get upset and there will be a problem.
  2. Do not let fear control your life.  If you want to do something, go and do it.  If I want a shirt, but I don’t go to the store to buy it because I’m scared, and then I see my friend wearing the shirt I wanted, I might get upset.  Don’t let fear control your decisions.
  3. Do whatever makes you happy.  Your happiness is everything.  There are times when we must force ourselves to do things we don’t want to do, but after a while, we have to weigh out the cost.  (I work because I need money, but do I really need to make my money this way?)
  4. Take care of your health.  Get out of the fucking house and walk, run, lift weights, play a sport, etc.  We need physical activity.
  5. Love something.
  6. Love somebody.
  7. Tell someone how you feel.
  8. Find a hobby!
  9. Have fun!
  10. Travel!
  11. Stay away from people who aren’t supportive of what you’re doing, or what you’re trying to accomplish.  (Toxic is the word that has been used to describe people of that nature.)  Ignore them.  If one day, they decide to accept you and what you’re trying to do, maybe they’ll come to you and show a little interest.

OMG COMMON SENSE MAN!

If the “state of mind” of people in extreme positions is war, and half the population is extreme right or left, half the population is at its lowest point.  Half the population is militant.  We are deteriorating as a collective and resorting to a path we’ve gone down a million times!

New Path!

I’m not going to tell you what to believe or what to do.  I’ll share what works for me, but ultimately, you’re your own man/woman.  Think for yourself.  Who knows you better than you?

If you don’t like me, stay away from me.  If you want to get to know me, come and talk to me.  You can do pretty much whatever you want so long as you’re not stopping someone else from doing what they want.

Why do you complain about your job?  You read the job description and agreed to the pay, but when you start working you complain.  Why did you take it?

See things for what they are, not what you would like them to be.

 

 

 

 

Your Happiness

What’s up everyone?  I love you all for following along and reading the content published here at Table Seven.

I want to tell you a story and give you some advice.

When I graduated college, the first job I had was at a daycare center.  The days were long.  I got up at 5:30, and drove to work where I stayed all day for ten hours.  The pay was minimal.

After being there for almost a year, my opinion about what I was doing changed, and I was becoming miserable.  Eventually, my feelings about work started ruining my personal life.  Normally we’re happy when Friday arrives because it’s the last day of the week and we have the weekend to look forward to.  Not me.

When I left work on Friday, the thought of having to go back to work on Monday, and do it all over again for another five days dominated my mind.

When Monday did come, I had to scrape myself off the bed and force myself to go in.  I was totally miserable.

If you’re working at a place and you feel this way, quit.  Your happiness is important, and it doesn’t matter if it’s a job, a relationship, or whatever.  Leave it, and move on.


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Julian Assange

I’m way, way behind on Julian Assange, and any news pertaining to him, however I would like to say a couple of things.

Number 1…There’s nothing wrong with publishing PUBLIC INFORMATION.  Public information is for we the people, the problem is that most people either don’t know how or where to go to find that information.

If Julian Assange found and published public information, that ultimately cause a revolution, he’s not wrong.

Who’s wrong and who should be jailed?  Anyone who withheld or hid that information from the public, and whoever committed a criminal act.

Exercising your first amendment is not a crime.

Number 2…THE PATRIOT ACT is UNCONSTITUTIONAL, therefore you really can’t violate it.

God Bless The Land Of The Free and The Home of the Brave..

Control Through Mental Manipulation

There’s a lot of abuse in this world, and abuse is a means to control.  Abuse comes in all forms, but I wanted to focus on something specific in this article.

Have you ever been the victim or target of a loaded question?  In case you don’t know, a loaded question is one that attempts to limit direct replies to whatever serves the questioners agenda.

Here’s an example.  You’ve been working really hard at your job for the last two years, but for whatever reason, the company just laid you off.

Someone asks you, “Hey, are you ever going to get a job?”

This question implies you don’t work, it’s designed to place guilt on you.  THE PERSON WHO’S ASKING YOU THIS QUESTION IS FUCKING WITH YOU!

Do not attempt to answer it with a yes or no because no matter how you answer, you fall victim to this type of question.  You have to rise up, and challenge back by saying, “I’ve been working for the last two years.”

There’s also something else I noticed recently, which is another way an abuser could try to provoke you or bait you into an argument.

The abuser will ask you to do something you’ve already done.  You might be watching television and notice the volume is too loud, so you turn it down.

The abuser will ask you not even a minute later, “Can you turn the volume down, it’s too loud,” knowing and fully aware you just did that.

Or, how about this?  One morning I went to the food store to pick up some groceries, but later in the day I noticed I forgot several items I really wanted so I returned to the food store in the evening.  When I got home I was asked, “How many times a day do you have to go to the food store?”

That question or anything like it is to be ignored because the person is clearly trying to start an argument with you.  You might feel like saying, “Mind your business, or Why does it bother you if I go to the food store twice in one day,” but don’t.  You’re dealing with a petty person who has a problem with you, and when someone has a personal problem with you it doesn’t matter what you say or how nice you try to say it.

They want you to respond, they want you to acknowledge them, and they want your attention because they want to drain your energy.  This isn’t good.  Mental abusers who are draining your energy will eventually make you sick.  Yes.  They will stress you out and eventually make you sick because they are killing your happiness.

Put your headphones in, ignore them, and move out and away as soon as you can.

There are people in this world who are miserable, and you know what they say about misery.  It loves company.  These people aren’t happy until they’ve made you miserable.  Stay away from these people.  Do not give them your time.  You’re not being rude, you’re protecting yourself and your health.


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The Road To My Future

I graduated college in New Jersey in 2003 with a B.A., Arts and Communication, but I decided to become a teacher.  I had to go back to school for courses in early childhood  education.  My first really good teaching job was for Head Start in Plainfield, New Jersey.  When my student teaching and mentoring was complete, I couldn’t submit the paperwork to actually receive my teaching certification because my mentor wouldn’t sign the documents.  I don’t know why.

I left and went to Catholic Charities.  I had to do the whole mentoring program over again, but that was okay because I wanted to become a teacher.  After two months of work, I was fired.  When I asked why, they told me because they didn’t have to keep me.  Okay?  What about my teaching certification?  I guess they didn’t care.

Now, I’m in a different state.  I’m also fifteen years older, and starting from scratch, but my goal is still the same.  I’m going to become a teacher.  I’m going to obtain a professional teaching certification.  I want to be a teacher.


This seems like a silly question, but I have to ask it.

Is it okay to have a pissed off look on your face?

If you can’t answer this question immediately, then there’s a problem.  Is this how petty things have gotten?  A pissed off look?  Who’s judging the look?

I used to know a guy who never talked.  He was always quiet, and he kept to himself.  He looked miserable.  One day I spoke to him, and I learned he wasn’t miserable.  He was actually a pretty nice guy.  He just had a pissed off look on his face.  Hey, that’s how he looked.

I would never jump to conclusions and assume something about someone before actually speaking to that person, but believe me, there are a lot of people out here who would.  That’s not fair.



The road to my future is one that will be somewhat familiar.  The only difference is fifteen years ago I was able to work as a teacher while training to become one.  Now, I have to become a certified teacher first, then seek employment.

Most people would ask why I need to write about or talk about my plans, they would further suggest, just do it.

The reason why I write and talk about my plans is because sometimes I feel the push-back when making decisions, and I don’t know where it comes from.

When you make your mind up to do certain things, you do them, and it feels good and right doing those things because that’s what you want to do.

Other times, you make a decision to do something, and you do it, but it doesn’t feel right.  I don’t know why this happens, and truthfully, it used to bother me because i felt unsupported.

You would think if a person decides to do good things with their life and time, they would be supported and encouraged.  I mean you hope right?

Well, someone told me a while ago, “It’s not you.  Believe me.”  True.

New Year Magic

For the last ten, a shift has been felt,

It’s way deep beyond, past Orion’s known Belt.

From the home of the Archer, where the fire burns bright,

A shooting star arrow brings visions and light.

I shall pour out my spirit, a quote from the bible,

Mull over connections, however, this knowledge is tribal.

The arrow, yes, eventually it hit its mark, and it gave possibilities.  There are gifts I believe, that do come from the heavens.  My belief however, is beyond a belief as in believing by chance or having blind faith.  There are many things going on in this world around you, and there are so many paths, roads, and possibilities.  When this becomes apparent, you will think you’ve completely lost your mind, but the reality is, for whatever reason, your awareness is being heightened.

As you dive into the strangeness and look even stranger to the people around you, know that you’re not crazy.  As matter of fact, you haven’t lost your mind at all.


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Taming A Wandering Mind

If you’re like me, then your mind wanders.  Topic after topic.  If you’re worried about this and fell like you’re loosing control, then listen to what I’m about to say.

My mind, I don’t know why, wanders, but I’m starting to think it has something to do with “the task of the moment,” but the advice I can give you is “don’t pay attention.”  All types of thoughts of thoughts and temptations pass though, but remember, it’s all in your head.  We shouldn’t live in our heads.

It’s not a bad thing if you have a wondering mind, but remember, we live in our physical reality.  While our mind drifts from the here and now, our bodies don’t.  Do not let random thoughts and temptations interfere with what you’re doing, or what you say to someone if they’re completely unrelated or something you normally wouldn’t or shouldn’t do.

If you, for example, just sat down to read a book, read that book.  If the thought crosses your mind to check your email, send a text message, or do something else, ignore it until you’re done reading.  Focus on what you’re doing, and see it thorough completion.

In his/her possession, the average person has a cell phone, tablet, laptop, computer, books, and magazines.  Younger people have all that stuff including video games, so the urge to bounce from one thing to the next is great.  So great in fact, it takes a mindful decision, and some effort to concentrate on one thing at a time.

When speaking and interacting with people, remember, that person doesn’t know what you’re thinking.  They do however, hear what you say.  They can see you, they can see how you react, how you stand, and what you do with your hands.  Your body language is visible.

Someone approaches you for the first time.  They want to speak with you because they want to get to know more about you, but during that conversation, the thought crosses your mind to say “fuck you,” and run away.

What do you do?

What should you do?

The answer is to stand there, and have the conversation.  Let the person get to know you, and if it’s in the cards, make a new friend.  Your mind is telling you to say, “fuck you,” and run away, but should you?

Is the person threatening you, attacking you, or disrespecting you?  No, so, you wouldn’t and shouldn’t run away, and say, “fuck you.”  Cursing at the person and running away doesn’t make sense.

It sounds funny, but a small percentage of us will curse and run away.  Why?  I can’t answer that.  I cant tell you why people do what they do, but I can help you make the right choices if that’s what you want to do.  This whole article is about fighting random thoughts that interfere with our lives while we’re working, completing a task, or speaking with someone.  The reason why this is an issue in the first place is because we’re told to listen and pay attention to our thoughts, but if our thoughts aren’t “good,” then we must dismiss them.

This leads me to my next point, “knowing the difference between right and wrong.”  If you know the difference between right and wrong, then you know which thoughts you should dismiss because acting them out would either be wrong, or not make sense in a given situation.  Remember the actions you take, and your behavior, weather physical, or verbal, must make sense.  No one can see your thoughts, and people cannot read your mind.  Having the thought to curse at someone who is trying to be your friend, is nothing more than a passing thought so long as you don’t act on it.

How did we get here?  I don’t know.  I think the mind should be silent, but most people do have a busy mind.  I have a busy mind, but it wasn’t always that way.  There was a time when I was fully, 100% in the moment.  Just living-acting and reacting.  It would be extremely nice to find a way back to that point.  It was a time when your mind wasn’t a beacon for the thoughts and emotions of others.

It was a time when your mind was your own, no distractions, no interference, and no delays.  100% fully in the moment.


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Seasons Greetings

Hello Everyone!

Today is December 23rd, and Christmas will be in two days.  I would like to wish everyone a Merry Christmas, and a happy New Year.

If you don’t celebrate Christmas that’s quite alright.  I hope everyone has a very enjoyable Holiday Season.

You won’t see any content published from https://noozbuffet.com for the next couple of weeks because we take off the last week of December and the first week of January.

2019 has been a fabulous year for us as we’re getting close to that 75,000 word count mark, and that means a lot to us because it shows we’re consistently putting out content for the world to read.  I would like to personally thank all of our new followers for liking us and reading our content.

Welcome aboard!

We have some new exciting things we’re working on for 2020 so check back in as often as you like.


Now is definitely the time to start thinking about those New Year’s Resolutions, and what you would like to accomplish during the year ahead.  We’re big on finding that perfect balance in life, and if you followed along with us throughout 2019 than you know we’ve all come a long way.

We got back to work, and joined the gym after a 15 year lazy haze.  For us, 2019 was about laying the foundation.  We did, and now we’re keeping it going.  2020 will be all about socializing and rediscovering our night lives.

Don’t forget.  Whatever you start in 2020 will have magic behind it.  2020 is not just another year, it’s the beginning of a brand new decade.  They say 40 is the new 20, well, I’ll be turning 40 next year so we gone find out!  😛


Alright ya’ll, before I end this, I would like to leave you with these words…

You can do whatever you want.  You are the boss of you.  If there’s something you want, or something you would like to do, go and do it.  Don’t hold back.

Happy Holidays

💕🔥🎄🎆🎇

Open Roads

It’s coming to the end of the first week of this month, and I’m flooded with thoughts about the future.  December always zips by.  A brand new year awaits.

It’s not only a brand new year, it’s the beginning of a brand new decade.  I remember when year 2000 came, the thought of being alive at the turn of the century was mind blowing.

We’re now entering the 3rd decade of this 100 years.  There’s so much to look forward to.  There’s so much to see, and so many places to go.  It’s really just amazing.

With 2019 coming to an end, I hope everyone’s year has been everything expected and better.  Now it’s time to take this base we’ve built, and build upon it.  Job changes, financial decisions, decisions regarding love and relationships, yes, we did take on a lot, but we were successful.

Once again, I’ll remind you of that picture with the little green plant growing through the bed of rocks (past article).  That’s what 2019 was, it was a rocky start.  It was high hopes, and a wonderful vision of what could be.  It was a new start on shaky ground.

🔥The door’s open now, the foundation is set, and all we need to do now is blaze this trail forward. 🔥


I tweeted today that I was tired of hearing about how fucked up the pension system is, how retirement for those of us born in the 70’s, 80’s, and 90’s is doomed, and how corrupt politicians are robbing us.  That may or may not be true, but I look to our elders for help with that.

I also tweeted that each and everyday we not only have an opportunity to create a life for ourselves, but we also have an opportunity to preserve and protect what we find for younger generations.

It would be amazing to know that our older generation didn’t fail us, and they didn’t let the system fall because they preserved what they found for us.

Just thinking out loud.

New year resolutions?  During 2020 I would really like to reestablish or rediscover my sense of self, and achieve a certain level of mental clarity.  Who am I? What have I become?  That’s where I’m starting.

How about you?  What are your plans for 2020?  What would you like to achieve?  What would you like to accomplish?  Remember, it’s not just another new year.  It’s the first year of brand new decade!  In the “Grand Design of Universal Time” that’s really significant.