This is important, well, I think it is. When it comes to oxygen and breathing, I’m dead serious. Now, there can be many reasons for why we feel anxious or short of breath, but specifically, I’m addressing relationship suffocation.
When I say relationship, it isn’t necessarily referring to our boyfriends/girlfriends, or our husbands and wives. It can be, but a relationship can be any acquaintance, friend, or coworker we talk to and see daily or once in a while.
Just two days ago, there was a man I knew who was in a bad mood. He was having a bad day for whatever reason, and instead of figuring his problem out for himself by himself, he chose to be testy with me.
We’ve all been in that situation, and it’s not right. Not every day is going to be magnificent, some days are going to suck, and each one of us, individually, needs to realize when there’s an issue and do the best we can to work towards an outcome that promotes positive interaction again.
In other words, instead of taking your problems out on innocent people, go address the issues and people who are upsetting you.
A while ago, and I don’t talk about this much, but on several occasions, I experienced an immediate cutoff of oxygen. I’m not talking about a little anxiety where it’s hard to breath; this felt like someone snuck up behind me and put a plastic bag over my face. This was not a gradual reduction of oxygen, but rather, an immediate cutoff!
That was enough for me. I needed to get to the bottom of that issue and make sure it never happened again.
When it comes to relationships, as we’ve described, an open conversation is required if they’re responsible for your suffocating. After you work out everything with that person, you must:
Set Boundaries; be firm and don’t give an inch.
Take Back Your Privacy
Express Yourself; if someone else’s behavior is affecting you let them know.
Strive for Independence; not having to rely on people frees you from their control.
Be a Leader
Cut Off General Statements: If some say’s this sucks, don’t agree if you feel differently. It’s okay to have an opinion.
Nurture Yourself and Enjoy Your Time Alone
Take Time To Do Nothing
The most important thing is for you to tell yourself;
“I’m a person to!”
“I’m a human being and I have needs.”
“I deserve to be happy.”
We are not mind readers, you have to speak up if you have concerns, feel violated, or have been treated in a way you didn’t deserve. Start putting yourself first, and start making yourself and your life a priority.
People who come off as aggressive, loud, and obnoxious, are that way for a reason. Usually it’s because they’re afraid or insecure about something. When people are afraid they try to control, and it’s their controlling behavior that’s causing your suffocation because think about it..
If someone is controlling they’re overreaching, intrusive, and could care less about your boundaries, your privacy, and your opinions. Until these people resolve their personal issues, they’re always in some way going to be a drain on you, your life, and your energy.
Stand tall my friends.
Nooz Buffet 